Natalie, I’m so sorry for your loss. Loss is the most challenging thing we experience here on Earth. When it comes to grief we all process in different ways and at different rates. There’s not a right/wrong way to experience it. The guides certainly aren’t saying not to feel your emotions. There comes a time for most of us that we recognize that we’ve lingered a little too long in an emotion, and that’s when observing them can be quite helpful. Many times we don’t even know what we’re feeling because we haven’t taken the time to check in. Observing gives us that chance. I think if you actually gave it a go you might find that rather than “thinking” it was cold you might “feel” it as being cathartic. You can’t observe emotions without feeling them.